Nonbinary students describe personal experiences with gender dysphoria, its effects on mental health

Gender dysphoria, different from body dysmorphia, is what the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) defines as 鈥渄iscomfort, pain and unhappiness that is experienced by many transgender people in relationship to the commonly gendered parts of their body.鈥 Sophomore Jordan Minion, who is nonbinary, has faced challenges in accepting the physical and mental aspects of their gender identity.

For Minion, accepting their appearance was most challenging in middle school, when they were first discovering their identity. 鈥淲hen I was younger, I definitely experienced a lot of gender dysphoria,鈥 Minion said. 鈥淎t 11 or 12, I didn鈥檛 feel like a girl or a boy at all, but I didn鈥檛 even know what being nonbinary was or that it was even an option. I went back and forth between different pronouns, and I didn鈥檛 really know what was missing.鈥

However, Minion found both mental and physical reassurance upon realizing that they were nonbinary. 鈥淗aving a label helps,鈥 Minion said. 鈥淚t kind of gives you that safety net of 鈥榯his is who I am.鈥 Of course, it鈥檚 subjective鈥攏ot everyone wants a label. But, it was really helpful for me to have an answer.鈥

As they grew more confident in their gender, Minion began to emphasize their internal identity over their outward appearance. 鈥淲hen I first [recognized myself as] nonbinary, it was a reflection of how I saw myself physically,鈥 Minion said. 鈥淏ut as I found out more about my gender identity, it鈥檚 become more of a mental reflection. Now, even if I look feminine or masculine on any given day, I still feel the same way.鈥

Even so, Minion has faced obstacles in self-acceptance. For them, media messaging and expectations have placed harmful standards on nonbinary and transgender individuals. 鈥淭here鈥檚 a lot of pressure to look how you feel, especially on TikTok and Instagram,鈥 Minion said. 鈥淔or example, if a trans man doesn鈥檛 cut his hair, go on testosterone, get surgery or wear a binder, they don鈥檛 fit into these societal expectations for what a man is. That鈥檚 very similar to being nonbinary. It鈥檚 just important to remember that you don鈥檛 owe anyone androgyny.鈥 Androgyny is defined as possessing both masculine and feminine characteristics simultaneously.

Minion鈥檚 experiences were echoed by other nonbinary students in an anonymous poll from 麻豆放映免费. One student described their discomfort with societal expectations. 鈥淚 would like to present myself as feminine or masculine sometimes, but society says I can鈥檛 if I鈥檓 nonbinary,鈥 they said. 鈥淧lus, the standard for gender non-conforming people is skinny, white and perfectly gender neutral, which puts harmful restrictions on how we can present ourselves.鈥 Ultimately, Minion believes that dysphoria has a primarily mental basis. 鈥淗onestly, I don鈥檛 think there鈥檚 a way to [mitigate dysphoria],鈥 Minion said. 鈥淵ou can鈥檛 really fix the issues that you鈥檙e uncomfortable with鈥攖hat鈥檚 usually a mental issue, not a physical one. It’s really just finding yourself.”